What a difference a year makes . . . Part Two

Okay, so yesterday, I talked about the fact that our favorite place closed on September 27th last year.

Now we get to talk about the fun stuff that happened last year on September 28th. You see, we'd planned our Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding 15 months in advance. So we had no idea that we'd be getting married at the Adventurers Club the day after it closed.

The club's closing was distressing enough, but it was going to close the NIGHT BEFORE OUR WEDDING! We nearly called it off. We were so stressed, and so upset.

Looking back now, we're so happy we stuck to our original plan and had our ceremony at the club. It was a great way to say good-bye to the place.

So today, we're remembering what a great time we had exactly a year ago today. And it was a truly GREAT time. Sure, a Disney wedding ain't cheap. And sure, it's not legal in Florida. But we did it anyway. And we wouldn't change any of it. We had a blast. Our family had a blast. Our friends had a blast. It was just . . . a BLAST! Good times, good food, good drinks, and excellent company. A winning combination.

And here we are a year later. Not much has changed of our day to day life, actually. We've been together for six years, and we've been living in this house for over four. And we've had Tolliver for nearly two years. So our daily routine didn't change much after the wedding; with the exception that we've got wedding bands on our hands now. And they occasionally get left on a bathroom counter or something.

But something did change in our outlook. Mostly, the change came in early November when Florida along with California and Arkansas passed hateful ant-gay legislation. We've become a lot more vocal in talking about our marriage since then. Not that we were ever really "in the closet" or anything, but now. Well now we engage people in the conversation. We let them know how very married we are, and how little our relationship differs from other married couples. Except that we don't get equal protection under the law for ours. And we explain exactly what that means. You'd be amazed at how many people didn't realize just how unprotected their gay friends and family are. Even with all the legal steps like wills, and power of attorney in place, gay couples aren't even remotely equal in the eyes of the law or the federal government. And rather than letting that discrimination go un-noticed, we've started to speak up.

It's going to be a long hard fight, but we'll get there someday.

But today isn't the day to focus on the fight for freedom.

Today is the day to celebrate what we've already accomplished. Scott and I will be spending a nice quiet night at home alone with a home cooked meal. Nothing fancy, but it sure does feel like something a married couple would do. Well, this married couple at least.